Mothering the Mother 27/08/2010
I am the keeper of the birthing space; I am the minder who focuses solely on the mother and her birthing experience. When I enter the Birthing space it is my job to help the mother to create her Birthing room I dim the lights unpack her birthing bag. I drape sarongs, sheets or shawls over medical equipment so she doesn’t have to look at it. I have even hidden the clock as time is not at place in a birthing room. I watch over her and hold the energy in the birthing room be it at hospital or at home be it on the floor, in a bed, near a river or on the surgery table. I am like wall paper staying in the background yet holding the space to let mother and partner be and only going to her side if she calls for me. I will feed her food, water or ice chips place hot packs on her belli or back. Should she start too panic I am there to ground her holding on to her feet and talking to her gently rubbing her legs or massaging her back. She will centre her self and feel her body’s strength I am full of information I have researched for her I hold her birthing wish I don’t call it a Birth plan because plans can be broken. I remind her of all that she has learnt in her preparation and path way to her birth. I take her back to the beach where we sat and learnt how to breathe the baby down. How we watched the oceans waves roll in to shore and and relate them to the surges of contractions she is experiencing and together as a team we will row our way over them together. I have worked with the mother in her home I have stayed by her side in hospital I have cared for her partner when he is exhausted or is having trouble coping in the birthing room. I have spoken to Midwifes about options to void intervention if possible. I have politely asked people to leave the birthing room as they are a distraction to the mother. It is also my job to care for the needs of these people and when I pop out of the room I go to tell them what is happening should the mother ask me to do so. I have told people to be silent, turn off there phones, put on deodorant, or eat a mint, or not to eat in the birthing room for in fact all these things are a turn off they heighten the mothers senses and mother needs to be solely focus on her primal brain for as soon as the neocortex brain is turned on her birthing process will slow or even stop. I have waited in the waiting room for mothers who had to birth there babies vie caesarean or should I know her room she is to be staying in I will unpacked her birthing bags set her room up with flowers and add aromatherapies to the room, so when she comes out of theatre it is all done and she can spend quiet baby moon time. When a mother births her baby naturally she reaches down, her hands are the first to bring her baby up to her chest I stand back and hold the space for them in silence for this is the connection of new life and new love that no one should interfere with, it is Sensual ,it is Sacred, it is BIRTH. So who am I you ask I am A DOULA a registered labor Doula. Typically, Doulas meet with you in the second or third trimester of the pregnancy to get acquainted and to learn about prior birth experiences and the history of this pregnancy. I will help you develop a birth wish list, teach relaxation, visualization, and breathing skills useful for labor. Most importantly, I will provide comfort, support, and information about birth options. I will also point out the benefits of breastfeeding and assist the mother should she need help in doing so. I serve as an advocate, labor coach There are a variety of titles used by women offering these kinds of services such as "birth assistant," "labor support specialist" and "Doula". My name is Larissa Salton I am A Registered Doula should you like to email me with any questions or you would like a Doula to support you at your Birth please call me at DOULA DEVOTION 0403687128, larasalton@gmail.com Comments Your comment will be posted after it is approved. Leave a Reply |
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